Blog: Day Zero

This really should have been my first post. In keeping with the idea of documenting this change in my perspective and life, I want to put down the thought process that led me to start writing.

[Note: This will start off pretty bleak. One week in, I can see that I had hit bottom from a self-actualization perspective. That’s OK- I believe this story is one of positive transformation.]

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First, this is NOT a “poor me” story. I am grateful for the life that my wife and I have built for our family. I have no lottery dreams of quitting my job. The work that I’m paid to do supports my family and for that I am grateful.

I work in the insurance business. This was happenstance. I ended up here by chance but the company has been good to me. The company I work for operates in an ethical manner. I have a great deal of respect for many of the people with whom I work. I feel valued and compensated fairly. BUT- this is not what I dreamed of doing…

I have had a number of jobs since beginning work at 15. To the best of my recollection, they are:

  • Moving stuff in an auction house
  • Working in the Bindery for a Printer
  • Page in the U.S. House of Representatives
  • Making pizza (x3 places)
  • Laborer in heavy construction
  • Apprentice in the Plumber’s union
  • Administrative Assistant
  • Real estate appraiser
  • Roadie for a Vegas-style music and comedy act
  • Laborer at the Dept. of Public Works
  • Bartender
  • Banquet Server
  • Law Enforcement in the U.S. Air Force
  • Night manager at a topless bar
  • Loss Prevention manager in a distribution center
  • Surveyor in heavy construction
  • Private investigator of insurance claims
  • Working in the Claims organization for an insurance company

This is a pretty good list but the one job I’ve always wanted to do does not appear- writing. For a while in school, I thought that I’d like to teach English. I figured this would be a great way to support myself while I wrote the ‘Great American Novel.’ I ended up on a different path and today am a middle manager in the Claims organization that appears as the last entry on that list. I’ve also been with this company for 6 ½ years, which makes this the longest job I’ve ever held.

For a long time though, I’ve also been repressing anything related to this idea of me as a writer. Ironically, I’ve surrounded myself with very creative people. My wife, already a skilled stage actress and very talented singer, began a blog some time ago and she’s written a number of really funny pieces. Most recently, she has started her own business creating and selling hand poured, organic soy candles. My mother-in-law works as a motivational speaker and has written and published a number of books. My youngest brother is becoming quite the viral media personality. Another brother has a funny blog and contributed the “Blog, you fools!” cartoon from the other day. I’ve hated them all for their ability to put something out there and be creative.

I even went through the trouble of finding a quote to justify the inaction caused by my fear. John Adams wrote to his wife in 1780 saying

I must study Politicks and War that my sons may have liberty to study Painting and Poetry Mathematicks and Philosophy. My sons ought to study Mathematicks and Philosophy, Geography, natural History, Naval Architecture, navigation, Commerce and Agriculture, in order to give their Children a right to study Painting, Poetry, Musick, Architecture, Statuary, Tapestry and Porcelaine. [source]

Now, this is a great quote- but in my mind this was yet another rationalization to avoid anything remotely creative. I saw myself as falling into either the first generation (with my military service) or the second generation (working in the insurance industry) but was giving my children the opportunity to study more creative pursuits. How could I argue with one of our founding fathers? Surely, I should put aside these childish ideas about “writing”.

No more. This is my turning point. At age 40, I’ve realized that the fear of failing at writing has stopped me from even attempting it. In hindsight, I know what scared me. I tend to have this all or nothing perspective. Either I’d write my first story and be an instant success OR I had no talent and would never produce anything worth reading. So if I put myself out there by writing something and it had all the rough edges and imperfections of a first work, I’d view that as meaning I would never be a writer. This is a childish perspective but it stayed in my blind spot for 40 years. I allowed it to influence my decisions (like avoiding any profession remotely close to the one that I really want to be doing) without ever stopping to consider whether the thought process made any sense.

I now believe that the skill of writing is a skill like anything else. The more effort and work I put in, the better my writing will become. In fact, you could probably make the argument that it is only through failing that we really learn things. This blog will be my platform to be creative, take risks, fail, and recover.

As I wrote in “Documenting This Transformation”, I think there’s value in capturing my observations as I go through this process. I see two distinct tracks of writing emerging from this. The first is the content that expresses my creativity and humor. That should comprise the majority of the “Essays”, “Fiction”, and “Funny- ha ha” sections of the blog. The second track in my writing is this self-observation and documentation- me stepping back and looking over my own shoulder as I’m being creative. Look for that in the “Open Notebook” category. (I’m sure that in a month I’ll come up with another method of laying out the pieces in the blog. I make no guarantee that those labels will apply 30 days from now!)

So- I’m not anonymous here. I will put myself out there by writing and sharing. I’m not going to let fear of failing stop me. So I ask you, dear reader:

What has fear stopped you from doing today?

What are you prepared to do about it?

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Documenting This Transformation

I thought it would be interesting to observe myself as I begin this process of going from a repressed writer to a man that is writing. This ‘Open Notebook’ is really a sketchbook for my thought process, disposition and observations.

I’m a bit under the weather so I don’t see me accomplishing anything tonight. (I’ve already observed that I prefer to write at night but not post the work until the next morning. So I’m writing this at 8:16 PM on Thursday evening and expect to publish it Friday morning with my coffee.) I did want to capture the process of transformation- how I’m freeing myself from a fear of failure and just writing. So this (short) piece stakes out my intent to observe and document this process within myself.

I hope you enjoy it.

-T

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“Blog, you fools!”

"Todd, meet Gandalf. Gandalf, Todd..."

A little bit of inspiration from Matta!

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Sealing the Deal

I was about to head to lunch when the demon called. I recognized the number and thought about letting it go to voicemail. I knew that the anticipation of having to listen to the message would sour my stomach anyway, so I picked up. He wasted no time.

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The Art of the Succinct, or: How I Learned to Stop Avoiding the Short Story and Enjoy the Ride

Confession: I used to be a reading snob. I can admit that now. I’ve taken ownership of my wicked past and have seen the light.

What I mean is that I used to look down on the short story. I might take a crack at a novella- but only if the author was solid. A short story just didn’t seem to be worth my time.

Growing up, I read a lot. Reading was my preferred way to spend my time. In retrospect, I can see that putting my nose in a book and barely coming up for air was my way of handling my shyness. Books were always my friend and never rejected me. (It did take me about 3 or 4 attempts to complete The Return of the King but, to be fair, I tackled that one in the 6th grade. I was a geek for anything vaguely fantastic or epic so LOTR was on my list early. But that last book is a little dense.)

My stumbles at Tolkien notwithstanding, the novel was it for me. A good novel (preferably at least 300 pages) meant plenty of time focused on a single story and roster of characters. I’d work my way through the obligatory introductions by the author (“Todd, meet Gandalf. Gandalf, meet Todd…”) and settle in to the meat of the story. I’d enjoy the novel through its resolution then, usually, flip back to the book’s beginning looking for the “Also by…” list in the hope that it was a single entry of a larger series. One of the first fantasy novels that I read, by the brilliant Piers Anthony, was Centaur Aisle. That book was picked because with the word “centaur” in the title I figured there was no way it could be anything but fantasy. This led to a short-lived habit of selecting books based on the font and color of the title on the book spine- usually evaluated by standing in a library aisle with my head cocked 90° to the right. Centaur Aisle, with a vaguely medieval font on a sky blue field, was a perfect example of that practice.

Centaur Aisle cover

The book in question.

That particular book was an excellent choice for a young novel aficionado. Although I had unknowingly skipped the first three books in the Xanth series, the novel lived up to my expectations. I quickly got myself up to speed on the world and characters and I was off! I finished that one and circled back to the first three books that I had missed. Piers Anthony also became the first author that I really sought out. I soon discovered the breadth of his work and got my hands on anything he wrote.

All was well in my adolescent head- until I hit Anthonology, his collection of short stories. I had accidentally picked up short story collections in the past but this was the first time that I can remember picking up one from my sparse list of favorite authors. I was honestly at a loss here. On one hand, Piers Anthony was an A-list writer (pun intended, as any reader of the Xanth books will appreciate). I’d read just about everything of his I could get my hands on- 6 or 7 Xanth books, early entries in the Apprentice Adept and Incarnations of Immortality series, and even a poorly understood attempt at his Tarot books. However, the short story was my nemesis. I’d barely get comfortable with the setting, plot and characters and then- BANG- it would be over. What was the point?

At that point, I could not afford to be picky. My desire to hide away from the world inside a good book meant that I’d exhausted every bit of decent reading material available. (It would not be until a few years later that I would grow to appreciate re-reading a good book. Nice, that. Like catching up with an old friend that you hadn’t seen in some time.) I opened the book and began reading. I figured I owed Piers at least that much for all of the satisfaction he’d given me already.

That changed my entire outlook. I admired the wry wit of “The Life of the Stripe”. By the time I reached “On the Uses of Torture” I was in awe. The author had created these entirely complete stories- beginning, middle and end- sometimes in just a few pages. Thanks to Mr. Anthony, the short story was now on my radar.

As I matured, my list of favorite authors grew. I discovered the worlds of Roger Zelazny and Robert Heinlein– usually through a robust novel or series. The Chronicles of Amber books and Stranger in a Strange Land remain at the top of my all time favorites list, alongside Mr. Anthony’s own Incarnations of Immortality series. However, I’d always be delighted from that moment on to discover a collection of those authors’ short stories. Zelazny’s The Last Defender of Camelot (most notably the titular story of Lancelot’s modern struggle) and Heinlein’s The Past Through Tomorrow (” ‘If This Goes On…’ “) sit solidly next to any longer piece.

I began thinking about this topic- the short story- the other day while boxing up old books to give to friends or donate to the Rescue Mission. I was overdue in keeping a promise to my wife. When she bought me my first eReader a couple of years, I promised that as I was able to find my old favorites in digital form, I’d begin shedding the accumulated weight of 25+ years of reading and collecting books. I’d made significant progress in building my digital library over the last couple of years and, in acknowledgement of my wife’s ascetic tastes, was ready to move the books out.

[As an aside to my fellow bibliophiles- I will suggest that you get comfortable with the idea of the digital book. While I have a nostalgic love of the physical artifact itself (the book that I can hold), the true power of books is in the information that they convey. The printing press changed the world not because it created a new consumer product but because it allowed information to move freely and without constraint. The Internet is its modern descendant. What’s important about the book is what’s inside- not the carton.]

In packing up my old companions, I came across my beat up copy of Anthonology. This book had truly been buried under its peers in recent years in the second layer of books on one of my bookshelves. I picked it up with that comfortable feeling of recognition. The packing was slightly delayed while I spent some time revisiting those stories.

It’s only now, as a 40 year old man (and father!), I realized what it is about short stories that draws such appreciation from me. A common theme in my conversations with my sons is the value in doing something well. I know that I’m not alone in this- parents want to teach their children that a job well done has its own intrinsic value. This is illustrated in the Japanese tea ceremony. The overt actions, preparing and serving tea to a small group, are of secondary importance. The tea ceremony’s primary lesson, to my understanding, is one of respect for something done well- in this case, the seemingly simple act of sharing a pot of tea. There should be an innate satisfaction in mastering something. It is our stamp on the world. It is our moment to exert our will over our own human imperfection.

I appreciate the skill it takes to write a short story well. To be able to capture all of the elements of a tale- setting, character, plot, theme- and do it so succinctly is admirable. Nowadays I have no real preference in the format of my readings. Similar to my willingness to embrace ebooks, it’s about the quality of what I’m reading, not the format that the author chooses to utilize. An author that tells a story well is worth reading- whether as a short story, novel, play, or poem. Why miss out on the good stuff because you don’t like the way that it was packaged?

Afterthought:

The website Snopes, an encyclopedic and disciplined look at all things urban legend-related, presents a solid investigation into a story related to Ernest Hemingway. The story is that Hemingway wrote a masterful story in only six words- “For sale: Baby shoes, never worn.” Regardless of whether he wrote such a piece, it inspired some modern masters to present their own six-word stories, as detailed here. Without making any comparison between my own work and that esteemed collection, here’s my version:

He won, despite their best attempts.

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