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Mostly true. Names may have been changed to disguise the guilty.

Where Do You Stand?

Over the last 2 1/2 years, I’ve written about my youngest son, the Goon, and his perspective on the world. His preferences and choices tend to challenge some gender roles. As his father, there have been moments that were heartbreaking along the way.

Our journey watching his unique choices began when, as a 3 year old, he picked out his own footwear for the first time. His choice? A pair of purple and silver Dora the Explorer sneakers. I wrote about the separate-but-similar reactions that The Queen and I had at the time. We wrestled with the opposing instincts to support him in expressing himself while still concerned for the social conflict we were sure he’d face. Society does not allow one to challenge its mores without consequence.
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When Is An Open Door Not An Open Door?

Six months after I left active duty with the US Air Force, I was thrilled to be hired by Wal-Mart into a leadership role in their Logistics division. I had operated as a leader in smaller groups in the USAF and could not wait to apply my military experience into a civilian career. Everything looked good – except for that pesky Open Door policy that Wal-Mart was committed to…

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Vocabulary For Leaders, Words Three and Four

I’ve just returned to work after a vacation with family and dear friends from my US Air Force days. One of those friends, James (quoted here) has recently retired from active duty. In one of our customary late night socializing sessions, C-Dog asked James, as James was discussing his post-military career plans, what he was good at. James’ response?

Leading people.

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Cards Against Humanity as a Lesson in Leadership

Reporting in from the beach, our first morning.

Last night in the midst of a vicious game of Cards Against Humanity, James dropped a little nugget of wisdom on us all. Insightful and relevant to leadership. The succinct observation?

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Sometimes You Wanna Go…

…as the song goes, sometimes you want that feeling of familiar comfort. On my impromptu visit to NYC with The Queen this week, I was surprised to find that same welcome.

[Disclaimer: E- the bar’s owner- plied us with food and booze. In my defense of this shameless pandering, I would point out that the beer was perfectly cold and the food delicious. I was defenseless.]

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